Almost any parent can agree to this teens It can be stressful at times. After all, this is the time when regular tantrums and misunderstandings can be expected to some extent. But, sometimes, things can escalate and cause arguments that are difficult to manage.
A mother under the username u / Safety-Light3099 shared a file mail employment reddit How she ended up using her 17-year-old son’s “camp savings” to pay for damage to his brother’s car, which he caused in the first place. The parent posted the story to the AITA subtitle (“Am I the Pit**) less than a day ago, and commented “AITA to use my son’s savings to fix his half-sister’s car?” Since then, the post has managed to generate a total of 12,500 upvotes and 1,200 comments.
In the post, the original poster (OP) described that it all started when her 19-year-old stepson got a car as a gift from his biological mother. “She and her family are well off, and unlike me, they can buy a car,” she wrote.
The stepmother was still “happy” to receive her stepson such a generous gift, but her biological 17-year-old son had the opposite reaction. She explained, “He is complaining about the unfairness of my ex-husband allowing him to give his son a car but not him.”
She knew her son’s complaints were “unreasonable”, especially after he suggested a certain solution: “My son wanted to co-drive the car” as a compromise “otherwise we would have to get rid of him.”
The mother then described how she tried to explain to her son that the car belonged to his brother, and “he should not expect to drive it unless he gets permission.” However, the son continued to issue ultimatums to the parents, demanding that the car be shared with him or else the car “goes”.
Things took another turn when the father encountered his 17-year-old son, who later proceeded to damage his brother’s car. “[…H]They threw paint on it, sabotaged the lights, and damaged its entire front.”
The OP described that when her stepson saw the damaged car in the morning, he “had a malfunction”, and her husband was “extremely angry” after seeing the footage recorded with the driveway security camera. And when the father tried to talk to the 17-year-old, all the teen did was “laugh and give him the middle finger”.
At that point, the mother decided to “take all his savings into camp for this summer to pay compensation.” And when the son found out about it, he “went to everyone in the house”, accusing the mother of theft and “trying to please [her] Husband for sex.”
The 17-year-old also “told his brother that he warned him and so he shouldn’t be blamed”.
“He also said it was my fault that I didn’t get him a car or had my husband bring him a car in the first place to avoid favoritism and conflict,” the mother wrote.
Towards the end of the post, the mother expressed concern about the son’s spending. [the] Most of the time he spends in his room he refuses to go out or eat. She explained that she was “worried” because her son “ended up in the hospital” as a result of low blood pressure caused by not eating.
Since the post was published, the moderators have locked the comment thread “due to rule violations”, which means that new comments cannot be posted. But before that, more than a thousand Reddit users managed to leave comments under the post, most of which contained words of support in favor of the mother’s decision.
“[…Y]You handled that well. Your son is almost an adult, he should act like this. He had no regrets, and should be grateful that your stepson did not press charges,” one user wrote.
“NTA .” [Not the a**hole] Absolutely. She did an amazing job as a stepmother to her son, and a wonderful job raising her vital son,” said another commentator.
More than a few users suggested that the mother’s stepson should press charges:
One commenter said, “Stibson should file charges and this kid should pay him for the expendable value of the damage.”
Another user wrote: “The half-brother should totally make the accusations.”
Several commentators also noted that the 17-year-old “needs therapy”.
One user explained: “He has serious problems and with his age if he doesn’t get that entitlement out of his head he’s headed towards a life of crime.”
Another added: “His behavior is abnormal. I will put him in treatment as soon as possible.”
One commenter agreed: “The child also appears to have some severe behavioral issues – maybe get him involved in therapy or at least talk to a professional because this behavior seems really extreme for a 17-year-old already.”
According to a University of Massachusetts study, 20 percent of American families have at least one stepparent, and nearly 30 percent “have a tie between parents or adult children.”
In addition, researchers from the University of Utah analyzed data on more than 400,000 children in order to compare the mortality rate of children whose parents did not end up remarrying after their former partner’s death to stepchildren whose parents remarried, resulting in mixed families. The research did not mention any significant difference between the two, and concluded that the children of the spouse are not at a disadvantage.
“Resistance from parents and stepchildren can be expected, which is a challenge for all involved,” licensed mental health counselor Gina Marie Guarino told VeryWellFamily.
“It involves taking the cultures of two separate families and integrating them into a new family dynamic,” she added.
This wouldn’t be the first time someone decided to take it to the internet to share their parenting concerns. NEWSWEEK I mentioned earlier how the mother expressed her frustration at the fact that she A young child is regularly forced to hug and kiss. NEWSWEEK I also covered another viral post on Reddit about a mom She refused to allow her children to visit their dying father in another country. And earlier this year, a post went viral on Mumsnet after a mum said she felt like it was She was “bullied” by her stepdaughter’s teenage daughter.
NEWSWEEK Reach out to u/Safety-Light3099 for comment.